Whenever I see a “Top 10 Closet Must-Haves” article in a fashion magazine, I can hardly stand the suspense as I flip to the right page to see what MUST-HAVES I’m perfectly happy WITHOUT.
I recently read an article in a fashion magazine entitled, “10 Things Every Woman MUST Own”, and do you know how many of those things I actually owned?
Six. That’s 60%. In grade-school terms, I flunked fashion.
These lists tend to focus on MATERIAL THINGS. Things that change from year to year, month to month, magazine to magazine, editor to editor.
Sure, they can help you understand trends and offer up inspiration, BUT please don’t think for one second that those lists are going to help you find YOUR style!
In fact, they’re pretty much designed to 1) make you spend LOTS of money and 2) fail at fashion so you keep coming back, seeking the next best thing.
If they truly offered something you NEEDED in the first place, you wouldn’t keep going back for more, searching for answers.
Plus, I’ve worked with plenty of women who have ALL THE THINGS, but still feel lost in their closets and overwhelmed by their overstuffed drawers. They feel like people don’t GET them. They are working hard to FIT IN, when all they really want to do is BELONG.
So I did you a favor, and I made you a REAL list. One that’s actually useful.
TOP 3 THINGS YOU REALLY NEED
IN YOUR CLOSET THIS YEAR.
1. Inside-Out Congruency
It’s a term I coined myself, and it’s the backbone of STYLE. It’s the premise that who you are on the inside MUST be reflected on the outside. In other words, your PROJECTION OF SELF (how you live, love and laugh in the world) must match your PRESENTATION OF SELF (how you present yourself to the world.)
In order to do this, you’ve got to know who you are on the INSIDE. You’ve got to peel back the layers of exhaustion and overwhelm until you find your SHINE.
We don’t spend enough time in our daily lives remembering WHO WE ARE ON THE INSIDE, and saying OUT LOUD things like, I am BRAVE, FIERCE, FUN, RESILIENT & WILDLY CREATIVE.
Imagine if you connected to THAT part of yourself everyday?!
Imagine if WHAT YOU WORE reflected your SHINE, and not your fears.
Imagine what your life would be like if you SHOWED UP.
(Hot damn, my cheeks are getting RED. This is powerful stuff!!)
There is tremendous danger in not allowing your insides to match your outsides… and it’s called HIDING.
Last summer Raisa (who loves bow ties) and her friend Iyla (who loves dresses) switched outfits… just for fun.
LOOK AT THEIR BODY LANGUAGE YOU GUYS!!
This is what HIDING looks like, and it makes my heart hurt.
I won’t have it. Not on my watch.
2. A True Understanding of Your BODY
This one is HUGE! HUGE!!
You’ve got to learn how to RENAME, REFRAME & UNSHAME the conversations you have WITH and ABOUT your body.
You need to talk about your body in a way that is not demoralizing and hateful. You need to understand balance points and body proportions, as they relate to real life, NOT industry standards. You need to SEE YOUR BEAUTY, and not just your perceived flaws!!!
If you’re wearing clothes that don’t fit your body… in other words, if you’re spending your days yanking and tugging, then it means you’re trying to squeeze your body into something it shouldn’t be squeezed into.
Did you hear me??
IF YOU’RE CLOTHES DON’T FIT, IT MEANS YOU’RE TRYING TO SQUEEZE YOUR BODY INTO THE WRONG DAMN THING!!!
Case in point.
SAME BODY (mine). TWO DIFFERENT PANT RISES.
You can’t really blame it on my body now can you?
You’ve got to stop all the negative self-talk and GET EDUCATED.
You’ve got to learn the SCIENCE of style.
You’ve got to put on the right damn pants!
It takes courage to wear what you love. On a Tuesday.
I’ve seen lots of closets filled with lots of fancy things… that still have the tags on them! Not because they don’t fit – but precisely because they do.
Wearing the things that make you feel BOLD BRIGHT & BEAUTIFUL takes BRAVERY.
It is not shallow or petty or anti-feminist.
You’ve got to flex that brave muscle every.single.day until the vulnerability hangovers subside, and you can wear what YOU want, whenever you want, without external permission or validation.
Listen, you can have a closet filled with every CLOSET MUST HAVE from every fashion magazine in print, but if you don’t have:
- INSIDE OUT CONGRUENCY
- A TRUE UNDERSTANDING OF YOUR BODY
- THE COURAGE TO BE BRAVE
…you’ve got nothing.
The old saying, “a closet full of clothes but nothing to wear” exists for a reason.
THIS does NOT need to be YOUR struggle!!
In Stasia’s Style School, we don’t simply “touch” on Inside-Out Congruency, Body Confidence and Bravery – it is the foundation of the work we do together!!
And when these THREE THINGS are taught and practiced alongside some easily digestible principles of style, within a sisterhood of badassery – you’ve got one helluva course!
There is no other STYLE SCHOOL LIKE IT!
This course is not about tweaks. It’s about TRANSFORMATION.
THE DOORS TO STASIA’S STYLE SCHOOL OPEN ON FRIDAY, JANUARY 29TH!!
I don’t want to create panic or anything… but the price will NEVER EVER be at a $249 price tag again, and I’m capping my numbers at 40.
That’s right… when that 40th person signs up, I’m closing the doors.
Part of what makes SSS so transformational is the SISTERHOOD that is created among women who are walking the same walk TOGETHER! The group is small, so you have an opportunity to REALLY get to know each other. You become each other’s cheerleader and confidant and celebrator.
Believe it or not, I’ve been told by the SSS alum that I should double, triple… even quadruple my current price.
And I will, but not now. The content and delivery is ROCK SOLID. That’s what I’ve poured my guts into. It’s tried and tested and downright transformational. But right now, I’m operating off of a DIY website design with no legitimate branding… and that’s all about to change.
When I relaunch SSS this spring/summer, I will have a new website with some fancy-pants branding… and a new price tag!!
Basically, Style School is getting an Inside-Out Congruency makeover. I need the outside (branding) to match the inside (transformational, inspirational, motivational content).
Want to know more about Stasia’s Style School, CLICK HERE to get on the email list, where you’ll get a full-on description of exactly what style school is and how it’ll change your damn life!
With LOVE & GRATITUDE,
PS. Check out this AMAZING before and after pic of SSS alumna, Diane M., and the sweet things she’s got to say about Style School! (Seriously, the picture blows my mind!! By the end of SSS her spirit was SHINING BRIGHT!!)
Stasia’s simple yet powerful processes about STYLE — paying attention to how we feel, setting ourselves up for success, focusing on what we love — radiates into all areas of LIFE. Before Stasia’s Style School I was wearing a self-imposed uniform to work that made me feel dutiful and drab. Stasia’s teachings have been the key to bringing more color and creativity into my style and that has translated into more pep in my step at work and at home. This isn’t a class to learn what fashion trends say we “should” be wearing. It’s about expressing ourselves in our own unique way, and what sets it apart is Stasia herself (wit, wisdom, and grace personified) and the Sisterhood that is created within the group. Well worth it, doable, life-enhancing, fun! ~Diane M (SSS Alumni)